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Ideas for your same-sex wedding, on a budget!
We're both delighted and excited to have received our latest contribution, by Hazel from "IDOONABUDGET" a blog site where Hazel provides tips and inspiration for how to plan your dream wedding day on a budget. Aswel as money saving ideas, she also has some great ideas on how to make your day, that "extra" bit special and personal to you and your partner.
It is a very exciting time for the LGBT community right now. Same sex marriage became legal in England and Wales in March 2014 (same-sex marriage in Scotland took effect from December2014) then we all celebrated as the US passed their same-sex marriage equality law in June 2015. Why am I telling you what you already know?
The reason I find all this very exciting is because it means the decisions you make now could be traditions that are followed by future couples. The wedding traditions same-sex couples follow were set out for them 100s of years ago, such as the Bride being walked down the aisle by her father. You may decide to walk down the aisle together, or to walk down the aisle one after the other, or to throw the isle out of the equation all together. Imagine the choice you make now is written in LGBT wedding planning books in a couple hundred years. What could be more thrilling than that?With this in mind, there are a lot of decisions for the same-sex couple to make when planning their wedding day which the heterosexual couple may not have to make. Which traditions, if any, do you follow, and which do you do differently? For me, the ceremony IS the wedding, the rest is just the “fluff”; enjoyable, beautiful fluff! Because the ceremony is when you become married, and therefore the most important part of the whole day, I am completely obsessed with ways to create a more memorable and personal ceremony. The ultimate way to do this (IMO) is with a Time Capsule.
Why should we do a wedding Time Capsule? Including a time capsule in your ceremony will involve all of your guests during the most important part of your day. Plus, we often think that our photographs will be the only lasting memento, but with a time capsule you will have so much more to help you look back on your wedding day in years to come.
How do we tell guests about it? Include a card about the time capsule with your invitations or add a post on your wedding website asking guests to bring with them a memory of the two of you, advice for married life, a photo or anything else they wish to contribute to the Time Capsule.
When do the guests add their contributions? The best time to start passing around the Time Capsule would be before the ceremony starts, maybe nominate an usher to look after the box and starting from the back pass it around once the guests are seated. After the signing of the register the box should be back at the front so you can contribute your own items before sealing/locking it.
Alternatively you could extend the time capsule into the evening so that wedding day stationary and decorations can be added before sealing it… a copy of the menu, your place cards, the cork from your champagne toast, one of the wedding favours etc
What do we contribute? You could choose to write a poem, or a love letter or a list of reasons you love your Husband/Wife so that when you open the capsule on your chosen anniversary you are reminded of why you fell in love.
When do we open the capsule? Set the date of opening the time capsule on your 1st, 5th, 7th or 10th anniversary.
If you do decide to add a time capsule into your ceremony, here is some advice on wording you may wish to use (Some celebrants will be more than happy to perform this for you, or you could have a member of the wedding party read this instead of a usual reading). Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, intimacy, friendship. The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box for which you must fill. There is no love in marriage. Love is in people. And people put love in marriage, just as you have filled this box with love. Keep your marriage full of love and romance by learning the art and forming the habit of giving, loving, serving and praising each other. May you be ever grateful for the presence of this precious person who has chosen to make a life with you, and look with anticipation to the day you will open this box together to be reminded of the love your marriage was made with.
On behalf of the team at Pink Wedding Venues, we'd like to "Thank" Hazel for taking the time to share this little "gem" with us. Again, we think this is a lovely idea and hope you enjoy making your own!
Please click HERE to read more of Hazel's tips, ideas and advice. x